Happiness… and how it relates to your blog or business

April 25, 2012

Last week on Facebook, I saw this article about “15 Powerful Things Happy People Do” from the Purpose Fairy website, but I hadn’t had a chance to read it yet.  As Joe and I were getting ready for bed and unwinding last night, he read it to me and we reflected a bit on the message and what we thought were the most important points that we could apply to our lives (and I could apply to the way I approach my business and blog).  Here are a few of my favorite points and how they can apply to blogging and small businesses:

4. TRUST vs. DOUBT:  “(Happy people) understand that beliefs become self-fulfilling prophecies” 

I have been experiencing periods of doubt lately,  which is silly and really a waste of effort.  In terms of making a business or a blog succeed, even if it is a part-time venture,  we can’t doubt ourselves.  We must have the most faith in ourselves, after all, we are the ones that will make things happen.  No one is going to lay the groundwork and put the effort in for you, so you better go forth with a tenacious spirit and really believe you can make something of yourself.  This faith in yourself will propel you toward your goals and put those goals within reach.

8. SELFLESSNESS vs. SELFISHNESS.  “(Happy people) look for ways to give and to share the best of themselves with the world and to make other people happy.”

Sure, we all have a few selfish justifications for why we started our blogs or businesses, but we are also trying to make a difference in other people’s lives.  For instance, wardrobe consulting is something I am good at and can make money doing (selfish) but what is really driving me is that I am able to help others portray the best version of themselves.  This is my selfless purpose (and it was really solidified after reading Jess Constable’s post on purpose last week).

10. DREAMING BIG vs. BEING REALISTIC. “(Happy people) don’t really care about being realistic. They love and dare to dream big, they always listen to their heart and intuition and the greatness of their accomplishments scares many of us.” 

Often times lately, I have found myself being more of a realist about where my business/blog could go, rather than seeing all of the amazing possiblities available to me both in Cincinnati and on the internet.  This ties in with #4 – don’t box yourself in.  Sure, it is important to be realistic about some things, but don’t allow the realism to suffocate your ability to think big about your business or blog.  For example,  if you want to get 1,000 followers and now you only have 100, you might consider 1,000 followers to be your “big dream”, but it is definitely in reach.  Use your realistic side to formulate a plan to get there!

I encourage you to take a look at the article and see how you might be able to change some habits in your life to take a more “Happy Person” and healthy approach to life, your blog, or your business.

  • http://www.reverieblog.com Caitlin @ Reverie to Reality

    Love this post. good for you for finding ways to relate this to your own blog and business. :)

    • Lauren {Stylized Existence}

      Thanks! I hope the article is useful for you, too!

  • http://inthecitywithcrystalin.com/blog1/ Crystalin

    Loved reading this this morning. Having a blog and small business I can completely relate. I always have to remind myself not to compare myself to others, concentrate on myself, and to grow personally and professionally.

    Thanks for sharing Lauren :)

    • Lauren {Stylized Existence}

      So glad it was a good read for you, Crystalin. Keep on doing what you’re doing, lady!

    • Shannan

      Is this the Crystalin that has the blog, “In the City with Crystalin”? If so, I love your style! Keep up the good work! I love seeing your post everyday.
      Oh, and you too, Lauren!:) You’re amazing! But I have told you so before.:)

      • Lauren {Stylized Existence}

        Haha! Yes that is Crystalin of “In the City with Crystalin”! I am sure she will appreciate your cute comment!

  • http://Www.eclecticsnapshots.blogspot.com Amanda

    Love this! Checking out the article tonight!
    Oh, and I’m just moving from Oakley to Hyde Park … Nothing crazy :)

    • Lauren {Stylized Existence}

      Thanks! Definitely read the article. Congrats on the move to HP! I lived in a building right behind the Fire Station for 2 years and loved it :)

  • http://www.hautekhuuture.blogspot.com Julie Khuu

    So beautifully written. It’s so nice to find bloggers out there who take their time to relay messages of positive thinking…not merely inspiration to pin across the board (although that’s fun too!)…Thanks for sharing this…gives me some oomph to get through the rest of my week!

    I’m hosting 5 days of GIVEAWAYS with 5 chances to WIN in honor of my blog’s 2year anniversary! Would love for you to stop by and check it out!

    Peace. Love. LOL!

    Haute Khuuture.com

    • Lauren {Stylized Existence}

      Thanks, Julie! Glad to be of service :)

  • http://www.pennypincherfashion.com Penny Pincher Fashion

    This is such a great post – I look back on when I was so new to blogging and I had all these outlandish dreams of how I would grow my business. It was only when I stopped focusing on statistics and followers & started putting my energy into making it a place to truly help other women/write about my passions that it began steadily growing. I’ve definitely learned that it’s not about the numbers – but it’s about interacting with & supporting other women. That’s why I started blogging in the first place and it’s good to not lose sight of that! :)

    • Lauren {Stylized Existence}

      Thanks Kimberly! I agree – a good message for all: focus on the right things and work hard and the work will pay off.

  • http://www.theshortandthesweetofit.com Alexa

    Oh I’m definitely going to have to check this out. Not only for the blog but for life in general. Always good to get a reminder.

    • Lauren {Stylized Existence}

      Yes. I am definitely applying it to my life aside from the blogging world, as well… didn’t want to bore you guys with those details, though 😉

  • http://morganstone.blogspot.com morgan @ {xoxo, me}

    Number 4 is super super important to remember, but I LOVE number 10. So many times I think I’m dreaming too big and I bring myself back to reality. But really, your big dreams can happen. Thanks for the reminder!

    • Lauren {Stylized Existence}

      Yes – I think it’s okay to balance these items, too. Being an extremist in any sense isn’t necessarily the way to go… but it is really great to keep in mind the “happy person” characteristics!

  • Giovanna

    Great post! Love the message! Totally checking this article out!


  • http://stephanieleannblog.blogspot.com Stephanie

    Great thoughts Lauren! I especially loved reading your #10 – sometimes things can seem so out of reach, yet it’s not impossible. I read these 15 Things a couple weeks ago and really enjoyed the post! Think I’ll go back and reread it…

  • http://www.smallshopstudio.com Erika [small shop]

    Wonderful thoughts Lauren. I think as we get older we can decide how we want to shape or lives, just as you say, with a positive outlook that keeps us going, or a negative one that will always hold us back. It’s so scary to put yourself out there all the time but what’s the alternative? Regret? Might as well give it a try.
    That said, there is definitely an amount of “delusions of grandeur” you have to summon up at times to put your best self out there! There are days when I’m not feeling at my best and I close myself off. But that’s ok, it’s life, and makes us appreciate those “wow” moments even more!

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  • http://www.dreaminfashion.com Bree

    WOW! This is a fantastic article. Thanks for sharing. I love the dream big part. It’s so important to remember that and so easy to forget and let little things drag you down.

    Dream in Fashion

  • http://www.daisyraeboutique.com Kacie

    I found your blog through The Other Side of Gray. I love your style! I’m now following you on bloglovin’ :)


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